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The difficult parent-child relationship: tips for saying "no" to children

We all know how difficult it is to raise a child. It certainly does not come with an instruction booklet, and it is often complicated to try to mix the right amount of discipline and authority with unconditional parental love. Restraining the little ones properly, however, is essential for healthy growth and education.

Parents these days are finding it increasingly difficult to manage their children, partly because of an ever-changing world. However, some tips, although they may seem trivial, may be useful to you if you are in a difficult time in your relationship with your children, especially if they are still young.

Of course, every parent is different, and every child reacts uniquely to external stimuli, but undoubtedly these guidelines will lend a hand in setting the conversation up better in case a firmer pulse is needed.

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The difficult parent-child relationship: tips for saying "no" to children
We all know how difficult it is to raise a child. It certainly does not come with an instruction booklet, and it is often complicated trying to mix the right amount of discipline and authority with unconditional parental love. Restraining the little ones properly, however, is crucial for healthy growth and education.Parents these days are finding it increasingly difficult to manage their children, not least because of an ever-changing world. However, some tips, although they may seem trivial, may be useful if you find yourself at a difficult time in your relationship with your children, especially if they are still young.Obviously every parent is different, and every child reacts in a unique way to external stimuli, but without a doubt these guidelines will help you to set the tone better in case a firmer hand is needed.
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Give clear rules from the start
Children are extremely receptive to stimuli from their surroundings, and they are able to understand many more things than we think. So it is extremely helpful to establish a constructive dialogue with your child, even if he is still young. Giving precise and fairly strict rules, including talking about what might happen once they are broken, will help the child to modify his or her negative behaviors on his or her own, thus avoiding expiring in arguments and scolding, definitely not the best way in the presence of strict rules.
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Instead of saying "no," propose an alternative
This is a perfect method of trying to make the child a participant in family decisions. In this way, he will feel more valued and will tend to follow parental instructions better. To avoid making him do a certain activity, instead of simply saying "no," a constructive alternative can be proposed. For example, instead of saying "no, I'm not going to buy you these cookies," one can say "why don't we all have a cake together for breakfast instead!" This is just one example among many, but you will undoubtedly get better results for the child's education.
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Put off until later "in case..."
This is a perfect way to teach the child that there are moments and situations in the course of the day that force one to postpone pleasurable activities in the name of what needs to be done. Turning a scolding moment into an educational situation is the perfect way to approach parenting. The perfect example is playtime: your child is insistently asking you to play, but you have other things to do at the moment, perhaps chores. The right response will not be "no I can't right now," but instead might be "please help me do what I'm doing, and then we can play together when we're done."
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Make him see the consequences of his actions
Children understand very well the instructions we give them, the commands and prohibitions, but they simply often ignore them because they do not understand and are unable to comprehend the consequences. So, instead of forbidding them something, it is better to explain why this thing is forbidden. For example: if the child wants to run up to a dog to pet it, instead of forbidding it (which is right, dogs might get scared if children run and yell) explain to him that he might get bitten on the hand and hurt himself, and that is why it is something he cannot do in a certain way.
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Use language appropriate to the situation
The way in which you stand in dialogue with the child is also very important if you want to make him understand something. If you are the first to get upset and lose your patience, the message will certainly not get through; in fact, you will only get a good cry or an argument. It is known to be difficult at times, but whenever possible do not give in to scolding, anger and yelling, but try to communicate calmly and assertively, with affirmative and not negative or questioning sentences. In this way, the child will more easily assume cooperative behavior, and will not try to resist just for the sake of it.
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